• Chronic Pain,  Journal

    Pain in the Side: Blog Series 2

    In a little over a month, I will have a DRG Stimulator implanted in my back with four leads wrapping around my 6th,7th, 10th and 11th thoracic vertebrae. “Where will you park the actual stimulator,” I ask Dr. Kim (the actual stimulator is a little bigger than a box of matches). “We’ll put it just above your sit-bone on your…

  • Chronic Pain,  Journal

    Pain in the Side: My Hidden Disability Series 01

    Hidden disability surely seems a misnomer for those of us affected by them; one might ask hidden from whom? The answer of course would be people who don’t know you… the public at large I suppose. Surely the people who do know you, particularly loved ones or close friends have seen this “hidden” disability, even if only in your lack…

  • Book Reviews,  Journal,  Reviews

    ‘Dark Matter’ by Blake Crouch

      If you’re a fan of fast-fiction, hankering for a book to gobble down in a night or two at your weekend getaway, Blake Crouch’s Dark Matter, with its protagonist physicist extraordinaire Jason Dessen bouncing around a limitless multi-verse in his mysterious magic box could be just the read for you. Although Mr. Crouch’s parallel timeline / alternate reality universe…

  • Chronic Pain,  Journal,  Lifestyle

    Disabled Sex

    Let me put this out there. This is not a woe-is-me, heroic code. For me, it’s simply what is. I live with a great deal of pain… constant pain. I’ll try to make this shit tolerable, perhaps even entertaining on occasion, because the more I can make you understand, the more understanding you might be to someone in your life…

  • Chronic Pain,  Journal,  Lifestyle,  Motivation

    How I Get My Ass to the Gym

    My brother Jim, in an offhand, almost flippant remark provided the key to my (and hopefully your) regular gym attendance. I was bitching about the effort it takes me to get to the gym, this despite the fact that the damn thing is right across the street from me, as if that matters, because as we all know, getting to…

  • Sex Advice

    She wants more oral sex actions.

    Dear Frank: I’ve been engaged to my fiancé for three months now (together for 3 years), and although the overall sex isn’t bad, he’s sloppy at oral sex. He seems to be really into it, but he’s all over the road, with no clear path home.  How can I get my man to be a neater eater? Jeri, California The…

  • Sex Advice

    She loves kinky sex

    Dear Frank, I’m a kinky little S&M chick who happened to hook up with a vanilla sex history professor recently.  I think he might be open to experimenting, and although I’m usually anything but shy, I really like this guy and worry about scaring him off. How do I bring him into my world without freaking him out? Tanya, Louisiana

  • Sex Advice

    Sex Mirror: Turned on or off?

      Dear Frank, Why do guys (and gals) have this fascination about looking in the mirror while having sex? Although I like my body, the mirror thing actually turns me off.  My boyfriend says putting a mirror in front of the bed will turn me on.  Should I try it? Jody, KS   I understand completely Jody. When presented with…