• heat and stir red-love-heart-valentines
    Journal,  Relationship

    Valentine’s Day Doesn’t Have to Suck

    Whether you’re single, married or coupled-up for several years, Valentine’s Day can just outright suck. The pressure that filters down from all the diamond ads, the store displays, the need to get dinner reservations 3-4 months in advance…it’s pretty much like Christmas with family. And don’t get me wrong, I can love me some Christmas, and of course love my…

  • heat and stir woman with eyes closed orgasm
    Sex Advice

    Female Orgasm Hacks for More Powerful Pleasure

    There is no Declaration of Orgasmic Independence unfortunately, all orgasms are not created equal, not by a long shot. Why is it that a month after swiping right for Philippe, that dashing could-be Frenchman, (probable French Canadian) the orgasms that had come so fast and furious in those early “my god he actually has hair and resembles his photo” days…

  • Ariana Afghan Kabob Restaurant
    Food,  Journal,  Reviews

    Ariana Afghan Kabob Restaurant

    On the exposed brick wall, amidst the tasseled tapestries and hand woven rugs, across from the Free Afghanistan poster, you’ll find her – the iconic National Geographic girl with those haunting green eyes. It’s Wali’s sister. The long time maître d of Ariana Afghan Kebab on 9th Avenue and 52nd Street, Wali is charismatic, charming, and totally full of shit…

  • heat and stir pain 02
    Chronic Pain,  Journal

    Pain in the Side: Blog Series 2

    In a little over a month, I will have a DRG Stimulator implanted in my back with four leads wrapping around my 6th,7th, 10th and 11th thoracic vertebrae. “Where will you park the actual stimulator,” I ask Dr. Kim (the actual stimulator is a little bigger than a box of matches). “We’ll put it just above your sit-bone on your…

  • heat and stir pain
    Chronic Pain,  Journal

    Pain in the Side: My Hidden Disability Series 01

    Hidden disability surely seems a misnomer for those of us affected by them. One might ask, hidden from whom? The answer of course, would be people who don’t know you… the public at large I suppose. Surely, the people who do know you, particularly loved ones or close friends, have seen this “hidden” disability, even if only in your lack…

  • darkmatter2_rwallau
    Book Reviews,  Journal,  Reviews

    ‘Dark Matter’ by Blake Crouch

      If you’re a fan of fast-fiction, hankering for a book to gobble down in a night or two at your weekend getaway, Blake Crouch’s Dark Matter, with its protagonist physicist extraordinaire Jason Dessen bouncing around a limitless multi-verse in his mysterious magic box could be just the read for you. Although Mr. Crouch’s parallel timeline / alternate reality universe…

  • heat and stir couple 01
    Chronic Pain,  Journal,  Lifestyle

    Disabled Sex

    Let me put this out there. This is not a woe-is-me heroic code. For me, it’s simply what is. I live with a great deal of pain… constant pain. I’ll try to make this shit tolerable, perhaps even entertaining on occasion, because the more I can make you understand, the more understanding you might be to someone in your life…

  • heat and stir make it happen-motivation
    Chronic Pain,  Journal,  Lifestyle,  Motivation

    How I Get My Ass to the Gym

    My brother Jim, in an offhand, almost flippant remark provided the key to my (and hopefully your) regular gym attendance. I was bitching about the effort it takes me to get to the gym, this despite the fact that the damn thing is right across the street from me, as if that matters, because as we all know, getting to…

  • heat and stir lollipop
    Sex Advice

    She wants more oral sex actions.

    Dear Frank: I’ve been engaged to my fiancé for three months now (together for 3 years), and although the overall sex isn’t bad, he’s sloppy at oral sex. He seems to be really into it, but he’s all over the road, with no clear path home.  How can I get my man to be a neater eater? Jeri, California The…